Magic...

It is rare thing to end up with the perfect person for you. Or could it be, in the cases that seem perfect, that they have, individually, tried to be that perfect person for the other one, and that that is what makes the magic? I have pleasantly fascinated watching my daughter Brianne and her husband, Daniel make what I consider to be an amazing marraige. (that's them holding hands in the picture....awwwww) I have noticed a few things. They talk to each other about every decision and are great about coming up with something that works for both of them. They go out of their way to do nice things for each other; especially surprises, sometimes it is very simple, sometimes it is more elaborate. They are willing to look at things from the others' point of view, forgive each other, appreciate each others' differences and have a great sense of humor. Another thing I love is that seem to treat every little thing they do as this great adventure. I can see the strengths in each of them being blended into something wonderful. I stayed with them for 3 weeks after the birth of their first child. This is a little unimportant exchange that spoke volumes to me and is a favorite. One evening Brianne was assembling a fan. Daniel and I were just quietly visiting at the kitchen table while she sat on the living room floor surrounded by fan-parts. She became frustrated when it was not coming together like it should. As she became more and more agitated, getting herself worked up into a snit, Daniel watched her, smiling. Then he turned to me and said "I love when she gets like this....she's so... cute!" He really meant it. He continued to watch her bluster with a happy, content look on his face. ( She always drove me crazy and, frankly, scared me slightly when she was in that state growing up.) She did get the fan together and was quite proud of herself. I have thought about it and decided our God-given agency to choose how we react to life's events is a blessing we often don't use wisely. I chose to let her draw me into her frustration, he chose to simply enjoy her and let her work it out. Anyway, my whole point it that they make each other more important than themselves and the result is magic.